Sunday, October 26, 2014

Why hierarchy creates a destructive force within the human psyche (by dr...




---Illustrates how having a very aggressive bad seed can do damage to the whole society. When bad seed is eliminated the society thrives. Sharing, caring and nurturing took over this tribe of baboons and they learned to live a more peaceful existence. The group, also, seemed to prefer this lifestyle to boot. Makes a strong scientific case for what we may already know. BUT...we see that the proof is there if we need it.

Friday, September 26, 2014

LOWERING THE IMPACT OF A STRESSOR w/add on!


Lowering the impact of a stressor

 
 
---We now know that the impact that a stressor has, has much to do with our attitude toward it. To remind us ALL of the Mark Twain quote - ‘’It’s like MIND OVER MATTER…If YOU DON’T MIND, IT DOESN’T MATTER.’’ Conversely, if YOU DO MIND, IT DOES MATTER.


---When something (an icon) presents itself to us…it follows that the more we see it as a stressor the reaction that we have will be more stressful. The less the icon is a stressor to us…the less stress it causes.

---We see that we can apply this logic to self-acceptance. To remind us again, ‘’the more we mind how the icon impacts us the more stress it causes'':

MORE WE MIND - MORE STRESS
LESS WE MIND - LESS STRESS

---As with self-acceptance - the less that we see ourselves as flawed, the less stress we have. Our attitude to the anomaly makes all the difference. If we don’t perceive it to be a problem, than it is NOT a problem. This logic pertains to everything. It really depends on how we see things and hence our attitude to it.

---If we are stressed-out by whatever it may be that presents itself to us…than it is a stressor to us. And vice-versa…if we are NOT stressed-out by what is presenting itself to us - than our stress levels will be lower.









SELF-ACCEPTANCE (BEING AT HOME w/YOURSELF) LOWERS STRESS!



 
---When one is at ''HOME'' with himself, he understands the reason + value behind the difficulties he may encounter. He tends to see that there is a life lesson behind all of it. 

Thursday, June 12, 2014

WHERE DOES FRUSTRATION/STRESS COME FROM?


Where Does Frustration/Stress
Come From?
 
 
---Frustration/Stress does NOT happen when the events of our life give us meaning, satisfaction or an enjoyable experience. If we've spent a certain amount of time with someone/something very special and we enjoyed quality time...then we probably have a pretty stress free relationship. If this is going on then we undoubtedly feel very good about things.

---When it is NOT this and the excess energy that is produced by the interaction finds a place that affects us negatively...we may say that we are acting stressed or frustrated. When the energy produced by our relating to someone/something is negative it causes frustration/stress and can be known as a stressor. An energy is negative or positive depending on its affect on our demeanor.


---It once again must be said that negative or positive comes from how we view what it is that we are interacting with. We usually have a good time with things we like and a bad time with things we don't like.


---To work on our perspectives and how we view things...we go to our values, attitudes and behaviors. These govern the way that we see things. Be Well.